February 17, 2011

Love in Time of Facebook

Farmville, Farmtown, Cityville, Social City, Frontierville, Marketplace, Pet Society, Sorority Life, Restaurant City, Cafe World....name it, I played it. I remember the days when I was so addicted in playing games not just to kill the time but it also requires strategic planning to level up. Oh, those days, but I do not intend to discuss those games on this post but rather the so called changed way of Filipino courtship now that Facebook is widely exalted by everyone.

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Dated back to the old days, when a man found a woman interesting he cannot approached her on the street to ask for her number or address. Doing so will both subject them to criticisms. He should do it the proper way by introducing himself to the family and eventually to the girl. He also have to do the traditional Filipino way of courtship called "Harana" or Serenade at night and render servitude like gathering and chopping woods, fetching water and the like during the day.

Whereas today, courtship is more lenient. Often, teenagers and everyone express their love through Facebook. Sending messages, posting sweet words on your wall and not to mention those applications associated with Facebook with endless pick-up lines which make the couple  highly inlove with each other sometimes disregarding their family's views and opinions. It's more of "I don't care about you my family, I'm inlove and don't interfere, okay".

I'm not against Facebook. I have one of course, but I still love the traditional way of courtship. For me it is better and sweeter than any message sent on my inbox, better that those glittering images and colorful applications men posts on my wall. Isn't it sweet when a man visit your house and will express his love right in front of your family. That shows pure intention. Right?

As I am the one who will decide who I want but I like it more if my family would be involve and express their opinions with the man I choose and the most important thing is that the family of the man will accept me beyond words and matters. 
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21 comments:

  1. UnknownFebruary 17, 2011 at 7:34 AM

    Facebook is definitely taking over the world and changing the way we do things. I took this week off Facebook, just because I was finding it taking over my life again. It's easy to get wrapped up in that world and forget about what it's like to have face-to-face contact with people.

    Hopefully Facebook is just a phase that the world is going through, and soon we will all realize how silly it is to live so much of our lives online. It would be nice to see a return to old customs of courtship and socializing. I would hate to see that sort of thing fall by the wayside entirely--it makes me sad for my son's future. That's why it's so important to get out and do things, and not be connected 24/7 to some sort of electronic device: I want him to see the beauty in nature, not just in pictures on a screen.

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  2. karly from [kar[+]wade]February 17, 2011 at 8:18 AM

    totally agree! :] what a fun blog! i love this! cant wait to catch up on the rest of your posts! :]
    -karly
    www.karpluswade.blogspot.com

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  3. UnknownFebruary 17, 2011 at 9:53 AM

    I also like the traditional way of courtship. One day I asked my mother if serenade does really exist back then and if she ever experienced it. She answered yes to both and I got so kilig. But I don’t mind the modern way of courtship either because at the end of the day, what really important is the purity of the intention of a man.

    Hope you are doing great sey. I’m so glad I came across your blog your thoughts are just so nice to read.

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  4. UnknownFebruary 17, 2011 at 9:56 AM

    I also like the traditional way of courtship. One day I asked my mother if serenade does really exist back then and if she ever experienced it. She answered yes to both and I got so kilig. But I don’t mind the modern way of courtship either because at the end of the day, what really important is the purity of the intention of a man.

    Hope you are doing great sey. I’m so glad I came across your blog your thoughts are just so nice to read.

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  5. RathiFebruary 17, 2011 at 12:18 PM

    Amen to that Sey. My ex-boyfriend proclaimed his "love" for me through a phone call... Can you believe it? Not even face to face. not even a damned rose. Such a jackass!

    thank God FB was not there that time.

    I am not intimidated with FB at all now. I am over it, i guess. :-D

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  6. janjanFebruary 17, 2011 at 12:29 PM

    so much has changed. with the convenience of social network, courtship is viewed as how often you change status on facebook.

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  7. MiDniGHt DriVerFebruary 17, 2011 at 1:01 PM

    Gaya mo.. mas favor din ako sa style ng panliligaw nung araw.. atleast sigurado ka na hindi ka basta basta lolokohin nung lalaki db? Though yung style ngayun is favor saming mga lalaki. :)

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  8. GnetchFebruary 17, 2011 at 9:58 PM

    Haha. I would only ask a guy to fetch water or chop woods for me if I hate (and I mean totally HATE) him. Otherwise, I'd go date him. WHAAAAAAATTTT? :P

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  9. Mama HenFebruary 17, 2011 at 10:44 PM

    I miss the idea of the old time courtships. A man asks a father if he could date his daughter. That thing. I miss the dances and getting dressed up and flowers, etc. It is different these days and I think we have lost something so nice from back then. Have a great day my friend!

    Mama Hen

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  10. SeyFebruary 17, 2011 at 11:43 PM

    TB I am taking a few days away from Facebook too besides from the fact that we're busy at work but still it's nice to be away from electronic communication at times. I do hope too that we could back to our old ways when everything is so simple. I miss sending letters too. It's good that you take your kid outside. It's better that he appreciate the beauty of nature while he is still young.

    Karyl thanks for visiting. Hope to hear form you again.

    Mayen Wow! Your mother is very lucky to have experienced serenade. I am not against it too. You're right, pure intention is the thing that matters at the end. I'm doing great so far and thanks for visiting. Hope you're having a great time too.

    Ratz Oh dear, he is really a Jackass. How could he that? proclaimed a love through a phone call? but at least I do hope I had the guts to see you in person after that, uhhhh!

    Janjan yeah, and I guess people can guess who are married and who are not based on their status on facebook. the first thing that people can figure out. Oh Gosh!

    Midnight Driver Korek!!! Super Korek ka jan. Alam ko favor yun sa boys pero mas okay pa rin yung dati. Sana maibalik..hahaha lagot kayo!

    Gnetch hahaha! I guess that would happen. hahaha! And if you totally HATE him, let's think of other hard chores to do, like, climbing the coconut tree or fetching water on the mountain...what do you think?

    Mama Hen yup! I guess we already lost those wonderful days back then, but it would be so sweet if someone would do it now. Wow! Thanks and have a great day too!

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  11. GeorgeFebruary 18, 2011 at 1:36 AM

    I haven't gotten into Facebook, but I know that many people have. It has definitely changed the way people react with one another. But I guess I'm just too old fashioned and like to do my communication face-to-face whenever possible.

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  12. SeyFebruary 18, 2011 at 2:02 AM

    George I would love to interact with people face to face too. the happiness it brings is really marvelous and beyond compare.

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  13. ChinaDollFebruary 18, 2011 at 4:39 AM

    I used to go crazy playing facebook game specially farmtown and now Cityville but last 3 weeks I've already decided to stop playing any FB games...so far I'm 3 weeks sober...yipeee!!!

    For me FB is great for finding old acquaintances and getting in touch with friends who are all over the world but for LOVE as in Courtship? Hell no! I still prefer the traditional way of courtship but not the "old" way like fetching water or to chop woods for me hihihi, I mean I prefer guys (bringing flowers and chocolates) visiting the girl, then meets the parents and the whole family then the whole family interviews the guy. =)

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  14. SeyFebruary 18, 2011 at 5:47 AM

    ChinaDoll I do agree that Facebook is good for reuniting with old friends and acquaintances....your idea of courtship is really great! I love that, so sweet :)

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  15. SeyFebruary 18, 2011 at 5:49 AM

    P.S. ChinaDoll, I hope the boy wouldn't die out of nervousness. hahaha!

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  16. Flying high in the sky....February 18, 2011 at 12:11 PM

    :) beautiful!! i agree with you 200%!

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  17. NortehanonFebruary 18, 2011 at 6:36 PM

    Ang isang pilosopiya ko pagdating sa pag-ibig na yan, no one can win my heart unless haranahin niya ako. Cheesy na kung cheesy, basta. haha!

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  18. Velvet Over SteelFebruary 18, 2011 at 7:57 PM

    Sey, I so 'love' the way you think and write!!! Great post!! You are an Awesome mom, friend and person!!

    I am way behind of reading... so I got up early to catch up. Thank you for all your kindness & support this week & Always!!

    HUGS,
    Coreen xoxoxo

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  19. SeyFebruary 18, 2011 at 10:44 PM

    Flying High in the Sky hahaha! thanks! 200%, I love it.

    Nortehanon Wow, Cheesy nga yun! Pake nila, basta, sweet yun! hahaha!

    Velvet Over Steel Coreen, thank you so much for all your kindness too. You've been a great inspiration and I also love the way you write. Take care and have a great weekend my friend!

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  20. MikaelaFebruary 20, 2011 at 1:18 PM

    Sey--I wasn't familiar with the Filipino way of courting, but I must agree with you--it is highly superior and much more romantic than casual Facebook messages. I'm still not on Facebook because I'm scared it will "ruin" my beautiful IRL friendships and blog friendships. ;-)

    Your blog design is so unique and beautiful, by the way!

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  21. SeyFebruary 21, 2011 at 10:36 PM

    Mikaela Wow! It's really you here on my blog. hahaha. Me too, that's why I am so careful with the friends I add on Facebook.

    A BIG thanks for the compliment. I must commend my friend who helped me with the header.

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